Be Forgiving

                                                  Be Forgiving

         Philem. 1-25 Philem. 1,3-22                           May 29 2011



Philemon was an inhabitant of Colosse, a person of some note and wealth, and a convert under the ministry of St. Paul. Onesimus was the slave of Philemon: having run away from his master, he went to Rome, where he was converted to the Christian faith, by the word as set forth by Paul, who kept him till his conduct proved the truth and sincerity of his conversion. He wished to repair the injury he had done to his master, but fearing the punishment his offence deserved might be inflicted, he entreated the apostle to write to Philemon. And St. Paul seems no where to reason more beautifully, or to entreat

more forcibly, than in this epistle.

Philemon 1

1.     Salutation  (Phil. 1:1 )


Phil.1:1Paul, a prisoner of Christ Jesus, and Timotheus the brother, to Philemon our beloved and fellow-worker,


The apostle’s joy and praise for Philemon’s steady faith in the Lord Jesus, and love to all the saints.


2: Thanksgiving and Prayer (Phil.1:4-7)


Phil.1:4 I give thanks to my God, always making mention of thee in my prayers, 5 hearing of thy love and faith that thou hast unto the Lord Jesus and toward all the saints, 6 that the fellowship of thy faith may become working in the full knowledge of every good thing that is in you toward Christ Jesus; 7 for we have much joy and comfort in thy love, because the bowels of the saints have been refreshed through thee, brother.


Faith in Christ, and love to him, should unite saints more closely than any outward relation can unite the people of the world. Paul in his private prayers was particular in remembering his friends. We must remember Christian friends much and often, as their cases may need, bearing them in our thoughts, and upon our hearts, before our God. Different sentiments and ways in what is not essential, must not make difference of affection, as to the truth. He inquired concerning his friends, as to the truth, growth, and fruitfulness of their graces, their faith in Christ, and love to him, and to all the saints. The good which Philemon did, was matter of joy and comfort to him and others, who therefore desired that he would continue and abound in good fruits, more and more, to God’s honour.


3. The Plea for Onesimus ( Phil. 1:8-22)


Phil.1:8 Wherefore, having in Christ much boldness to command thee that which is fit— 9 because of the love I rather entreat, being such an one as Paul the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ; 10 I entreat thee concerning my child—whom I did beget in my bonds—Onesimus, 11 who once was to thee unprofitable, and now is profitable to me and to thee, 12 whom I did send again, and thou him (that is, my own bowels) receive, 13 whom I did wish to retain to myself, that in thy behalf he might minister to me in the bonds of the good news, 14 and apart from thy mind I willed to do nothing, that as of necessity thy good deed may not be, but of willingness, 15 for perhaps because of this he did depart for an hour, that age-duringly thou mayest have him, 16 no more as a servant, but above a servant—a brother beloved, especially to me, and how much more to thee, both in the flesh and in the Lord!17 If, then, with me thou hast fellowship, receive him as me, 18 and if he did hurt to thee, or doth owe anything, this to me be reckoning; 19 I, Paul did write with my hand, I—I will repay; that I may not say that also thyself, besides, to me thou dost owe.20 Yes, brother, may I have profit of thee in the Lord; refresh my bowels in the Lord; 21 having been confident in thy obedience I did write to thee, having known that also above what I may say thou wilt do; 22 and at the same time also prepare for me a lodging, for I hope that through your prayers I shall be granted to you.


It does not lower any one to condescend, and sometimes even to beseech, where, in strictness of right, we might command: the apostle argues from love, rather than authority, in behalf of one converted through his means; and this was Onesimus. In allusion to that name, which signifies “profitable,” the apostle allows that in time past he had been unprofitable to Philemon, but hastens to mention the change by which he had become profitable. Unholy persons are unprofitable; they answer not the great end of their being. But what happy changes conversion makes! of evil, good; of unprofitable, useful. Religious servants are treasures in a family. Such will make conscience of their time and trusts, and manage all they can for the best. No prospect of usefulness should lead any to neglect their obligations, or to fail in obedience to superiors. One great evidence of true repentance consists in returning to practise the duties which have been neglected. In his unconverted state, Onesimus had withdrawn, to his master’s injury; but now he had seen his sin and repented, he was willing and desirous to return to his duty. Little do men know for what purposes the Lord leaves some to change their situations, or engage in undertakings, perhaps from evil motives. Had not the Lord overruled some of our ungodly projects, we may reflect upon cases, in which our destruction must have been sure.

When we speak of the nature of any sin or offence against God, the evil of it is not to be lessened; but in a penitent sinner, as God covers it, so must we. Such changed characters often become a blessing to all among whom they reside. Christianity does not do away our duties to others, but directs to the right doing of them. True penitents will be open in owning their faults, as doubtless Onesimus had been to Paul, upon his being awakened and brought to repentance; especially in cases of injury done to others. The communion of saints does not destroy distinction of property. This passage is an instance of that being imputed to one, which is contracted by another; and of one becoming answerable for another, by a voluntary engagement, that he might be freed from the punishment due to his crimes, according to the doctrine that Christ of his own will bore the punishment of our sins, that we might receive the reward of his righteousness. Philemon was Paul’s son in the faith, yet he entreated him as a brother. Onesimus was a poor slave, yet Paul besought for him as if seeking some great thing for himself. Christians should do what may give joy to the hearts of one another. From the world they expect trouble; they should find comfort and joy in one another. When any of our mercies are taken away, our trust and hope must be in God. We must diligently use the means, and if no other should be at hand, abound in prayer. Yet, though prayer prevails, it does not merit the things obtained. And if Christians do not meet on earth, still the grace of the Lord Jesus will be with their spirits, and they will soon meet before the throne to join for ever in admiring the riches of redeeming love. The example of Onesimus may encourage the vilest sinners to return to God, but it is shamefully prevented, if any are made bold thereby to persist in evil courses. Are not many taken away in their sins, while others become more hardened? Resist not present convictions, lest they return no more.




Paul identifies himself as a prisoner as he writes to the “dear friend and fellow worker” Philemon . Following a typical first-century pattern Paul extends God’s grace and peace to Philemon  and outlines the prayer that he offers regularly on Philemon’s behalf .

At this point Paul launches his plea on behalf of Onesimus, whom he calls “my son” . Paul readily admits that as a slave Onesimus had been useless—but states that subsequent to his conversion “now he has become useful” .

Paul is sending Onesimus back even though he would have liked to have kept him near. In one sense this was because as the slave’s owner, Philemon had a right to his services. But even more, Paul was eager to see Onesimus reconciled to his master as a fellow-Christian .

With great delicacy Paul asks Philemon to welcome Onesimus as a brother—well aware that Philemon owes Paul far more than favors .

The request made, Paul indicates a hope to visit Philemon personally soon  and then closes with typical greetings and a benediction .